Get Out of Porn Podcast

Joe Wilkie

The "Get Out of Porn Podcast" is a weekly podcast to do just that: to help listeners get out of porn. Brought to you by Joe Wilkie, M.A., LPC, who specializes in sex addiction in his private practice, this podcast is intended to be both practical and insightful. By discussing topics such as triggers, accountability, emotions, trauma, inner child, brain chemistry, betrayal trauma, and more, this is not your typical behavioral addictions podcast. read less

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Ep. 50: Grounding for the Spouse

Ep. 50: Grounding for the Spouse

One of the hardest parts of healing from porn addiction is helping the spouse heal from the betrayal and emotional wounds. To do so, they need ways to ground themselves emotionally. In this episode, Joe discusses how they can do so.

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Ep. 50: Grounding for the Spouse

Ep. 50: Grounding for the Spouse

One of the hardest parts of healing from porn addiction is helping the spouse heal from the betrayal and emotional wounds. To do so, they need ways to ground themselves emotionally. In this episode, Joe discusses how they can do so.

Ep. 49: Withdrawal Symptoms

Ep. 49: Withdrawal Symptoms

It this week's episode, Joe takes a look at common withdrawal symptoms to porn addiction and how to handle them.

Ep. 48: Confession

Ep. 48: Confession

In this episode, Joe discusses how to confess a relapse, specifically after a long period of sobriety. In it, he shares specific tips on eating the frog, maintaining a positive sense of self, and more.

Ep. 47: NNN & Finding Motivation

Ep. 47: NNN & Finding Motivation

In this episode, Joe discusses finding motivation wherever possible to get out of the addiction including engaging in November's 'No Nut November.'

Ep. 46: The Day to Day Life of a Porn Addict

Ep. 46: The Day to Day Life of a Porn Addict

In this episode, Joe examines what each day looks like as an addict, a person just getting sober, a person six months sober, and a person 10 years sober. How is the day structured differently? What sort of things are done each day? How does the day of a man who is 10 years sober differ from the man just getting sober? Each question and more is answered.

Ep. 45: Middle Circle Behaviors

Ep. 45: Middle Circle Behaviors

Those familiar with the 12-step program will understand outer, middle, and inner circle behaviors. In this episode, Joe defines middle circle behaviors and talks about potential behaviors for porn addicts to avoid. He also discusses microcosms and how the little things in your life tell much bigger stories.

Ep. 44: Rebuilding Trust

Ep. 44: Rebuilding Trust

One of the hardest parts about sobriety is rebuilding trust with your significant other after you've been caught or have come clean. In this episode, Joe talks about how to rebuild trust and gives advice to the addict and to the wounded partner.

Ep. 43: Replacing Porn, Becoming Better

Ep. 43: Replacing Porn, Becoming Better

In this episode, Joe talks about the need to find a positive replacement for porn with the new found time, energy, and money that often accompanies sobriety. It's not enough to just quit porn. Sobriety must come with positive life changes.

Ep. 42: The Role of the Mother

Ep. 42: The Role of the Mother

In a recent episode, Joe discussed the role of the father in a son's porn addiction. In this episode, Joe examines the role of the mother including struggles with overbearing mothers, how a mom can best support her son, and how the addict must learn to love him or herself.

Ep. 41: Masculinity Matters

Ep. 41: Masculinity Matters

Our society has created a pendulum for men that swings between the woke fear of "toxic masculinity" and finding our masculinity in our high libido or in things like big trucks and country music. We struggle to know what true masculinity looks like and how it can help us get out of porn. In this episode, Joe takes a look at how pursuing manhood and masculinity can help us better our relationship with ourselves and thus help us find freedom.

Ep. 40: The Importance of Fathers

Ep. 40: The Importance of Fathers

We know how important positive attachment with your parents is when it comes to porn addiction, but there's a special importance placed on fathers in particular. In this episode, Joe discusses actions to take if you are the addict who has a poor relationship with your father as well as if you're the father who is looking to help your son.

Ep. 39: Handling Criticism

Ep. 39: Handling Criticism

In your sobriety, it's common for your wife, girlfriend, parents, friends, or others to criticize or fail to believe in your sobriety. This can trigger us to act out if we're not careful. In this episode, Joe discusses how to appropriately handle criticism and stay present with those criticizing your efforts.

Ep. 38: Nature Vs. Nurture

Ep. 38: Nature Vs. Nurture

It's the age-old question in psychology: Is this problem more due to nature or nurture? In this episode, Joe discusses whether porn addiction and its roots are more due to nature or nurture.

Ep. 37: Intentionality

Ep. 37: Intentionality

In this episode, Joe talks about the three hydras of recovery and how living intentionally solves each.

Ep. 36: Trauma Techniques

Ep. 36: Trauma Techniques

In this week's episode, Joe takes a look at some of the best trauma techniques to help you process through your trauma.

Ep. 35: Defining Trauma

Ep. 35: Defining Trauma

What is Big "T" vs. Little "T" trauma? What is complex PTSD? What if I don't have any major traumas and yet I'm still addicted to porn? In this episode, Joe answers all of these questions and more.

Ep. 34: The Unforgivable Sin

Ep. 34: The Unforgivable Sin

In this week's episode, Joe talks about the unforgivable sin pertaining to porn addiction. Your mind might run to horrible types of pornography or certain sexual acts, but it is none of those things. It has to do with the heart.

Ep. 33: Common Myths

Ep. 33: Common Myths

Joe is back with another episode on eight common myths many believe concerning pornography addiction, especially those in Christianity. Working through these unhelpful myths are key to overcoming the addiction.

Ep. 32: Advice to the Unmarried

Ep. 32: Advice to the Unmarried

In this episode, Joe gives advice to the unmarried porn addict, the unmarried non-addict, and the significant other of a porn addict.

Ep. 31: The Disconnect Between the Head and Heart

Ep. 31: The Disconnect Between the Head and Heart

Have you ever known something without actually knowing it? You logically grasp it, but you fail to feel it. In this episode, Joe discusses the disconnect addicts often have between knowing something and failing to feel the truth of it.